Each decision we make leads us down a road. Often, we blame the residents of the road we chose for making our lives difficult, but they have always been on that road. That is where they live. We decided to use it and thus, we cannot complain or blame for our own decision. What am I talking about?
When you decide to interact with someone, you have no clue what their addition to your life will bring. If they bring complications, you may blame them. But, didn't all this begin when you decided to allow them into your life? And if so, did you maybe get ahead of yourself? Did you ignore wisdom? And along another line of thinking, have you considered that there is nothing wrong with either of you? Maybe you are just not meant to be connected?
You see, we are godlike in our ability to decide. That is why prison is such a terrible experience, because it severely cripples your ability to decide. In that ability, there is a huge responsibility to make good decisions. When we make careless ones, it cripples our lives and the lives of others. So, my one "bad" decision may motivate your "bad" decision, which causes other "bad" decisions to be made and that ripple continues endlessly until we learn that we are continually deciding and can decide differently at any time we want. We must accept responsibility for our own lives, not leaving it to chance, to others, or living it carelessly, but living it on purpose.
If my country is struggling, it doesn't matter how much others are doing wrong until my own failures in patriotism has been addressed. If my company struggles, before I blame the leadership, I must ask myself how much am I investing in the success of the company. If my marriage struggles, before I blame him, I must take a serious look at my own issues within the marriage. You see, the secret to a purposeful life is seeing yourself as a developing individual and learning from all your interactions, both "good" and "bad" ones. When we point the finger completely outside us, it also removes our power to affect the outcome of any situation. I don't like feeling powerless, but to wield my power, I must also wield my responsibility.
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