Life gets more complex the more hats we wear, but there is a way to simplify a busy life. It's called prioritizing. Before you tune me out, finish this article.

In the beginning, we're just children. We belong to parents, some good and some otherwise. We do what they tell us and some of what we want, suffering the consequences (big ups to punishment, the switch, extension cord and belt lol). As we age, we take on the role of student, employee, employer, mother, father, sister, brother, believer, friend, spouse and the list goes on. We become a host of different things to different people. Trying to create a balanced life in the midst can be daunting!

In my life roles, I often floundered until I discovered the true secret to prioritizing life. The secret is keeping sight of who you are and what you desire. When you are in tune with yourself, you gain the insight necessary in de-cluttering your life and mind.

In general, most people can agree that family is first, financial security often ranks second, followed closely by social acceptance. But in most lists, spirituality ranks very low, if it ranks at all. Character ranks low on the list. And as long as that is the case, life will become cloudy with each new thing that comes into view. For the spiritual, for the believer, for the person who is ready to try it differently, here is my list of priorities in order of importance, 3 only:

1. Faith- for me, the most important thing is being approved by God and finding grace for the mistakes I make in life. Thus, anything else that comes along has to line up with that or it will create problems for me in all other areas of my life. My legacy is wrapped up in my faith. Any future commitments must be wrapped up in faith. My faith plays a role in every decision I make.
2. Family- if I were married, I would have said marriage instead of family. Why? Because so often we think mom and dad are equal to spouse and that isn't the case. We feel that we must balance and take care of our WHOLE family and that isn't the case. For me, as a single person, family denotes my child first and then all others in no particular order of importance. For a married person, spouse first, children next, and then everyone else as long as they don't conflict with spouse and children.
3. Freedom- this might seem baffling, but hear me out. Freedom means being unshackled from all the chains that bind. Now, some will wonder why I didn't put this before family, but family is a commitment, as is faith. The only two things I want to be shackled to is my God and my family. After that, I desire above all things to be free of the control, opinions and oppression of others. If I am free, I can be a great witness to God's love and purpose, a great wife and mother, a great friend, and more. I can be and do what I want. And as long as my mind is free, my family is well and my faith secure, I can make all the money I want to make because every other distraction or doubt is simply an illusion.

These principles have helped me launch YOUR HEALING PARTNER, holistic coaching for women. They have empowered me to rebuild my life after divorce, sickness and all the other issues I have faced in the past two years. These principles are tried and true. 

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When you've been sexually assaulted, even if it was in your childhood, those scars will not disappear on their own. I invite you to seek help through our women's program, Your Healing Partner. 

In the month since I've launched this program, we've already been able to help so many and hope to help many more. We offer you a judgment free zone to receive truth and uncover your own truths. We offer companionship in your suffering, a true sisterhood to help alleviate the ache in your soul. We offer the knowledge, wisdom and atmosphere. The rest is up to you. We hope to see you there and please, feel free to spread the word.

Each of you visiting my website and blog these days, liking my posts, retweeting my tweets and following my pages have played a tremendous part in the recent developments of my career.

I have officially launched YOUR HEALING PARTNER, my personal wholeness coaching program for women. Talk about exciting! I've been touching base with each of the ladies via phone or Skype and sharing enrichment. They are responding with rave reviews and telling their friends. God is making room for me. Thank you for everything, every mention and every prayer. 

I hope you all will continue to support this important movement of healing. As I release more books, ebooks and hit the road speaking to various crowds, I hope to even meet some of you face-to-face one day soon. If you hadn't already, be sure to follow my tweets and follow me on Facebook for updates, tips, and inspiration. Bless you all.

I could never say it face to face. Pride grips my tongue. Foolishness fills my heart. Madness seizes my mind. And all I can ever manage to say is "I don't care" but God knows it is a lie.

I care for you. I care what you do, when you do it and how you do it. I care if you're in my life. I care. I don't know why when I care the most, I yell the loudest. I can't explain why when I want you closer I only end up pushing you away. I don't know what happened to us. And I don't know how to fix it. The fear is that it cannot be fixed.

I could never say it face to face, but I miss you so badly. No, not just how you made me feel. No, not just having someone here. I miss how you smell, the sound of your voice, the feel of your skin, the weird noises you make when you're sleeping, the way you leave your socks all over the house. It was a house when you were in it. All the complaining I did, I was ignorant. I didn't know what I was doing, didn't know what I had, didn't know how petty it all really was. Now, we're done. There is no more us. All that is left is memories of mistakes I made and opportunities and love I missed. And the worst part is I cannot go and establish that with someone else because the words ended the relationship but they did not change the love in my heart.

Ladies, join me at Your Healing Partner to find relief from the things that ail us and plague us. You won't be sorry. Sisterhood is your way to freedom and joy and redemption. God still has a plan!

In the past week, I've been through more drama than I care to share. I feel as if someone wrote a tune with the emotional strings of my heart. Nevertheless, life goes on and responsibilities do not end rather I'm having a good day or otherwise.

When we assess the people we allow into our lives, we get a complete picture of our subconscious desires and needs. It is a well known fact that we choose our friends and our mates on a subconscious level most times. And when we're emotionally low and going through a lot in life, our decisions are often compromised. How many people have finally come awake to discover they are in a horrible relationship with someone who could be a wonderful person if they weren't dating them? Or friends with someone who is a lot of fun for a day or two but has no real substance? It happens.

Today, I'm telling you to get control of your life back by fixing the mistakes you're trying to learn to live with. Some things can be changed so don't you dare "punk out", as they say, because you're afraid to face your mistakes and correct them. You can do it. You only need to decide to do it. You can change your mind. You can change your heart. And you can most definitely change your actions. So let's hop to it! 

For more inspiration and empowerment to live a full and prosperous and happy life, join me at Officially Lacresha Hayes or catch my Twitter feed. God has a plan to heal you, to give you a future and a hope. I only hope to be a part of that plan. Be blessed!