Sometimes, we make certain concessions just to quieten that inner voice that tells us we're not where we are supposed to be and thus we call it love to put a nice sticker on it. But that isn't love. It isn't love to take another person's life hostage because you're afraid to be alone. That isn't love.
Love is all about giving. In fact, that's the word that determines the fake from the authentic. In this life, many will clamor on about their love for you, but does that love seek to take, control, or give? When love is in the picture, giving becomes a way of life. You find yourself always wishing and hoping for the best, investing your time, prayers and restraint toward that end. You give and you never count how much because you are so busy trying to find new ways to supply and things to offer.
Love is not going to seek out your body, hoping to sample and try, or toy around with it. Love will never seek to put you in error of lust. Love would never uncover you before the proper time. So as an almost 40 year old who is no longer married, I had to make a commitment to love myself enough to make sure no one else ever takes advantage of me with that word. With or without a man's love, I am complete with the measure I already possess. Also though, I made a commitment to love others better, which means not only being strong for me, but in an effort to love others as myself, I have to refuse to ask others for sacrifices love never would. As I said, these days, I'm learning more about love, not the imitation stuff.
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